Do Narcissists Feel Lonely: A Disconnect From Something Greater
The million dollar question: Do narcissists feel lonely?
It's a question that many people have asked themselves: do narcissists feel lonely despite their need for attention and admiration? You know those people who always seem to be the center of attention and have a never-ending stream of admirers? They may seem like they have it all together, but deep down, they can feel pretty lonely.
Narcissists often have a lot of acquaintances and people who seem to enjoy their company, but they struggle to form deep, meaningful connections with others. Their constant need for validation and admiration can make establishing genuine friendships or romantic relationships difficult. It's like they're always performing but never really connecting.
And despite the fact that they may appear confident and self-assured on the outside, narcissists can actually feel pretty insecure and inadequate. They may feel like they must always prove themselves or live up to some impossible standard, which only fuels their need for attention and validation.
All of this can lead to a sense of profound loneliness and emptiness. Even though they may have a lot of people around them, narcissists can feel like no one really knows or understands them. Admirers may surround them, but still feel like they're missing out on something deeper and more fulfilling.
In short, narcissists may seem like they have it all, but in reality, they can struggle with feelings of isolation and loneliness. Their constant need for attention and validation can make it hard to form genuine connections with others, leaving them feeling unfulfilled and disconnected.
Self-love is the antidote to all forms of abuse.
Some people might wonder how do narcissists feel lonely when they typically get so much attention? If we can all agree that narcissists have a deep need for attention, worth, value, power, control, sex, love and all the things they seek externally from other people while depleting those people over and over and over again, then we can probably also agree that the way to find eternal worth and happiness is by sourcing from internal sources instead of external ones, right?
Yes! This is very true! And the way we best source from within is by healing all the fear blocks and false beliefs we have acquired over our lifetime(s) so that we can feel connected to ourselves and to something greater than ourselves. Our true source of all things love: worthiness, value, measuring up, having success, being love, receiving love, feeling acceptable, etc. comes from sourcing from within and that gets us connected to our higher power as well.
Your higher power can be God, Universal Love, Source, angels, Jesus, spiritual guides, fairies, Buddha, Ascended Masters—you call it whatever you want. All of it is actually the same—it’s all energy and we are all energy as well. We are all the SAME energy, in fact. So, when we source from within, we are also tapping into the universal love that we already are and overcoming fear (which is not real anyway).
To become free of narcissistic abuse, the best remedy is to build your reserves of self-love and to rely on something greater to help you do this. Being an energy vampire and taking energy from people for attention, approval, and to feel lovable is actually not healthy for the narcissist and especially not for you. Likewise, when you are giving all the time and depleting your own energy in order to please, make someone feel at peace in themselves, be a “good” or a “giving” person, etc., you are harming yourself greatly because this causes energy depletion, stress, and ill health. Then you are pumping someone else up who is not returning the favor and giving them life force energy while you are draining yours and literally killing yourself. This is energy imbalance.
This is not to suggest that giving and doing good things for others is a bad thing, of course. It’s just when we are doing it to please in order to get love, attention, or approval we are doing it to be in control and to manipulate rather than from a pure heart. And even doing this to control and manipulate is not really a bad thing unless it’s done with malicious intent. As trauma survivors, we very often learned as children that we had to be pleasers in order to survive—girls especially learn this in our society. But now that we are adults, we get to change the methods while keeping the positive intention of giving love to others. We just want to give from a place of love and strength, not from a place of lack and insecurity.
So, it’s best to turn your focus back to you, let your energy vamping narcissist get supply from some other sorry sucker, or even, I don’t know, find God for him- or herself (Wow! What a concept, huh?) and live your own life while disallowing any more toxic people to hook into your energy.
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I hope this has helped you in some way today.
